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Writer's pictureAnupam Dubey

Will 'marriage without sex' be any acceptable form of marriage?

Updated: Mar 28, 2020


Maintaining a balance in society is considered to be among the priorities of the governments, be it union or state government! All governments in India are trying to work in that direction, but only as per their convenience, satisfying their selfish desires, to say the least. As per the governments, female feticide (a hoax), is a factor that is responsible for disturbed(?) gender ratio in our country; but what about suicides of men, #StateSponsoredMurders?


Government is not ready even to listen to the agony of men in India; on the contrary, it’s trying everything to portray the state of women in India, as shown in its self propagated बेटी बचाओ, बेटी पढ़ाओ campaign!


As of now, all duties and rightful expectations from husband are codified in family and domestic violence laws! Duties of a wife are either social understandings, implicit in culture, or a few outlined in some extreme judgments, like, ‘husband allowed divorce because wife wanted too much sex’. But these rare judgments neither help to create any obligations of wives nor in protecting men from domestic violence or abuse. As a result, the wife is left with rights only, without any duties.


In our country, lawmaking is driven by tragedy or emotional arguments. Criminal Law (Amendment) Act, 2013, which inserted new sections 354A, 354B, 354C, and 354D IPC; and The Juvenile Justice (Care And Protection of Children) Act, 2015, are just to name a few. Every time feminists have been succeeding with their motive; now, once again they are giving current to some emotional arguments; this time crying to criminalize ‘sex in marriage’.


Nowadays, the word ‘RAPE’, is more of a strategic tool, because whenever feminists or government talks of rape, it has an implicit understanding of viewing female victim in distress; and on that ‘MARITAL RAPE’… It’s scary, even to think of such new law enacted.


When in our country even marriage itself is criminalized with 498A IPC and Protection of Women from Domestic Violence Act, do we need, yet another new law to even criminalize sex in marriage as ‘MARITAL RAPE’? Especially when there already exists 4 laws in our country, which covers marital rape and which all are repetitive in nature?

Even though it’s an admitted fact that, for sex, marriage is not mandatory today; it’s a perception and personal choice of two ‘consenting’ adults, but this ‘consent’ itself is contested today; it’s twisted to wreak havoc on man/husband!


Now the question that needs an answer is that ‘how to record consent before every sexual encounter’, be it before marriage, as lovers or live-in partners, or after marriage, as husband and wife?


If HE cannot have sex, HE is Impotent


If HE has sex within marriage, HE is Marital Rapist


If HE has sex outside marriage, HE is Cruel, living in Adultery


If HE demands sex, HE commits Domestic Violence


HE = CRIMINAL by LAW

If SHE cannot have sex, it’s HER ‘My Choice’


If SHE forces sex within marriage, it’s HER ‘My Choice’


If SHE has sex outside marriage, it’s HER ‘My Choice’


If SHE demands Sex, it’s HER ‘My Choice’


SHE = Innocent by LAW

Being sexually inactive in marriage is already criminalized, as it’s cruelty and being sexually active……??? Be ready to be termed a rapist, any time, because, in India, we don’t need a woman accuser to provide proof, her statement alone is good enough to believe her side of the story.

Will 'marriage without sex' be any acceptable form of marriage?

With emotional arguments and the strategies of ‘rape’ and ‘marital rape’, feminist lobby, in the name of women safety and empowerment, is trying to make a new law to criminalize marital rape! The underlying fact why feminists are pushing to criminalize marital rape is that 498a IPC has lost the edge, after the Supreme Court’s guidelines stopped automatic arrests, as it is the most misused law!


In the form of new marital rape law, the feminist lobby is trying to have a new lethal weapon for negotiation and harassment, as it will bring more than 7 years of imprisonment and will provide enough cover to get men harassed making bail, a complicated affair.


Will ‘marriage without sex’ be any acceptable form of marriage?


Blindly following foreign laws, if at all feminists/government succeeds in criminalizing marital rape, which does not imply in the Indian family system or situations, it will be equivalent to the beginning of the complete demolition of the institution of marriage in India.


Again, if the government is so keen on copying foreign laws, why is it trying to criminalize marital rape, only in the name of ‘women’s safety’, when all foreign laws are gender-neutral?


Does the government understand that just because of its following agenda set by foreign-funded feminist organizations, the institution of marriage is on the verge to collapse, the family system is being ruined and social fabric as a whole is getting torn…


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